And there it is again…

That question, that one question that I don’t like. I don’t want to answer it, as it certainly is followed by another question that I don’t want to answer.

“Do you have children?”

No, we do not have children. We don’t want children. I don’t like children. If I give this answer the previous question will be followed by:

“Or are you having problems getting pregnant?”

I haven’t got a clue. Never tried it. Why would I try to get pregnant if I don’t want kids? People seem to think that if a woman says she doesn’t want kids, there’s got to be something wrong. Either with her or her husband. It seems not possible that there are women who simply don’t want kids, don’t like kids. It’s impossible…

One time I answered the first question with a ‘funny’ answer. I told the woman who asked: “Yes, we have 4 kids. 2 cats and 2 cars.” She didn’t think it was funny. She didn’t speak to me for ages…

written in response to the daily prompt : plead the fifth  ’What question do you hate to be asked? Why?’

34 comments

  1. people are so curious aren’t they but yes it’s a strange question..

    • Frouk says:

      yes. I don’t know why they think it’s appropriate to ask such questions. My health is nobody’s business, really.

  2. people are so curious aren’t they but yes it’s a strange question..

    • Frouk says:

      yes. I don’t know why they think it’s appropriate to ask such questions. My health is nobody’s business, really.

  3. Steffie says:

    That woman didn’t speak to you for ages? That’s a little extreme!

    I work at a nursery (with children between 6 months and 3 years) and I usually love kids. And once I’ll find my Mr. Right I would love to have kids of my own.

    But some children are just horrible brats, so I understand when people say they don’t like kids. :lol:

    • Frouk says:

      Yes, some kids are just plain horrible. I could never work with children, wouldn’t be good for the children…

      • Steffie says:

        Yeah, but even though some kids are horrible, I still find it more difficult to work with some adults… I mean, it’s easier getting kids to do what you want than some adults! ;-)

        • Frouk says:

          That’s why I like working with elderly people. They are generally well-behaved and are thankful for the work I do for them.

          • Steffie says:

            My mom works with elderly people, too… That’s something I couldn’t do, I think!

            I get really attached to the kids of my work and it’s always really hard for me when they come to kindergarten… I don’t think I could cope with really loosing them!

  4. Steffie says:

    That woman didn’t speak to you for ages? That’s a little extreme!

    I work at a nursery (with children between 6 months and 3 years) and I usually love kids. And once I’ll find my Mr. Right I would love to have kids of my own.

    But some children are just horrible brats, so I understand when people say they don’t like kids. :lol:

    • Frouk says:

      Yes, some kids are just plain horrible. I could never work with children, wouldn’t be good for the children…

      • Steffie says:

        Yeah, but even though some kids are horrible, I still find it more difficult to work with some adults… I mean, it’s easier getting kids to do what you want than some adults! ;-)

        • Frouk says:

          That’s why I like working with elderly people. They are generally well-behaved and are thankful for the work I do for them.

          • Steffie says:

            My mom works with elderly people, too… That’s something I couldn’t do, I think!

            I get really attached to the kids of my work and it’s always really hard for me when they come to kindergarten… I don’t think I could cope with really loosing them!

  5. ick…same here. we are barely married for 7 months (on Xmas day) and friends already ask if I am pregnant. Oh and I was in a previous relationship, didn’t have any kids and was asked all the time why i didn’t want to get pregnant…because and I didn’t and he turned out to be an arse anyway. still, i believe that our real friends aren’t having such bad manners and at least hold their tongue!

    • Frouk says:

      Yes, real friends know it without asking. But most people are ignorant.first thing my father-in-law told me after he heard his daughter was pregnant was: “now it’s your turn.” Told him he could wait a long long time for that to happen!

      • Ugh. that’s always awful and annoying. at least our families know better. not so much the extended circles of friends, though. the close friends are ok and keep their mouths shut.

        My ex-parents-in-law were all over me abt a baby. I finally snapped one day and told them that it’s not their business.

  6. Frouk says:

    Yes, real friends know it without asking. But most people are ignorant.first thing my father-in-law told me after he heard his daughter was pregnant was: “now it’s your turn.” Told him he could wait a long long time for that to happen!

  7. seeker57 says:

    Children question again, I love how you responded. Funny.

  8. seeker57 says:

    Children question again, I love how you responded. Funny.

  9. Courtney says:

    Funny how people feel it is their place to ask such private and personal questions!! So bizarre. I would probably take your approach too and just offer up ridiculous answers. “I used to have kids but I couldn’t stand them so we put them all up for adoption.” If they are asking rude questions they deserve rude answers :)

  10. Courtney says:

    Funny how people feel it is their place to ask such private and personal questions!! So bizarre. I would probably take your approach too and just offer up ridiculous answers. “I used to have kids but I couldn’t stand them so we put them all up for adoption.” If they are asking rude questions they deserve rude answers :)

  11. Courtney says:

    you’ll have to let me know how that goes :)

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